Good enough parent

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Good enough parent is a concept deriving from the work of D.wikipedia
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Donald Winnicott

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Good enough parent is a concept deriving from the work of D. W. Winnicott, in his efforts to provide support for what he called "the sound instincts of normal parents...stable and healthy families".
Winnicott is best known for his ideas on the true self and false self, the "good enough" parent, and the transitional object.

True self and false self

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Failing such provision, family interactions may be based on a fantasy bond, in a retreat from genuine relating that fosters the false self and undercuts the ongoing ability to use the parents to foster continuing emotional growth offered by the good enough parents.
However, when what Winnicott was careful to describe as good enough parenting – i.e., not necessarily perfect!

Melanie Klein

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An extension of his championship of the "ordinary good mother...the devoted mother", the idea of the good enough parent was designed on the one hand to defend the ordinary mother and father against what Winnicott saw as the growing threat of intrusion into the family from professional expertise; and on the other to offset the dangers of idealisation built into Kleinian articulations of the 'good object' and 'good mother', by stressing instead the actual nurturing environment provided by the parents for the child.

Omnipotence

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As Winnicott put it, it is "the good-enough environmental provision" which makes it possible for the offspring to "cope with the immense shock of loss of omnipotence".

Fantasy bond

Failing such provision, family interactions may be based on a fantasy bond, in a retreat from genuine relating that fosters the false self and undercuts the ongoing ability to use the parents to foster continuing emotional growth offered by the good enough parents.

Bruno Bettelheim

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* Bruno Bettelheim, A Good Enough Parent (London 1987)

Narcissistic parent

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While a self-confident parent, or good-enough parent, can allow a child his or her autonomous development, the narcissistic parent may instead use the child to promote their own image.